Happy New Year everyone! It's 2017! So far, I have spent most of this new year sitting down, eating and watching Netflix. Hope you've been doing the same (sometimes it's OK to not be super productive!).
I am sure we have all made the dreaded new years resolutions, and I am sure that for many of us that includes vaginismus-related things. It could be using a dilator for the first time. Or telling a friend about it. Or even overcoming it. We will all have our own personal goals and know what is achievable for us.
I am not going to write a big thing about my own personal vaginismus goals. Instead, I thought I'd share my goals for the Hey Vaginismus! Blog. Because I have BIG ones!
I have been thinking for a while that this blog isn't really reaching it's full potential. That's partly due to my time constraints, but also down to the fact that when it comes to building websites etc, my skills are limited. But I know that there is so much more that Hey Vaginismus! could offer, beyond my sporadic ramblings and bad jokes.
1. NON-BIASED INFORMATION
When you do that first google search that leads you to discovering that vaginismus is a thing, and that you probably have it, many of the top search results on google are linked to websites that endorse or sell products. It's hard to get a balanced view on treatments, and the condition itself when you are subtly (or explicitly) being encouraged to part with money. Alongside this, there is information available on health websites that is dry and clinical, and doesn't really explain in an honest way what having vaginismus actually feels like (physically and mentally). I am not trying to sell anything, and I am not a doctor. But I have had vaginismus for a very long time, and tried lots of different types of treatment. I imagine I can provide good, solid facts that are easy to read, non-scary and relatable.
2. SUPPORT NETWORKS
As you probably know, when I set the blog up, it was with the intention of finding someone with vaginismus and meeting them. I have now done that, and have also spoken to many other women through email and twitter. This has been unbelievably helpful, and I feel lucky to have the opportunity to get to know so many other women in the same position. I think Hey Vaginismus! could be a good springboard for women to connect with one another, and maybe even arrange to meet one another in their own area.
I would also like to try and arrange a bigger scale meet-up for any woman who wants to come along... It'll have to be in UK to start with (only because that's where I am!) but perhaps there is scope to connect other women up, around the world!
I would love to have some guest bloggers! Whether it's other women with vaginismus, partners of vaginismus sufferers, therapists, friends... Anyone really with something to say, and a different perspective. Because my experience is only one story. There are so many more.
These are just a few ideas. But ultimately, I'd like to turn the blog into a bit of a hub of support and information for women with vaginismus- but with an attitude of positivity, humour and (dare I say) fun? Because we're all still normal women at the end of the day! Why should we suffer clinical, boring and distressing websites when we want information on a condition that blights our lives and annoys us daily?
4. AWARENESS RAISING
No need to explain this one... JEEEEEEEEZ.
So, watch this space.
I do have a real job outside of the blog, so these changes will probably be slow... But if you want to get involved or help, please do get in touch! firstname.lastname@example.org
Wishing you all a happy, healthy, successful 2017 (vaginismus, and otherwise!). Vaginismus sucks, but if we all pull together maybe we can make it a bit more bearable.
Lots of love!xx