Wednesday, 12 October 2016

Happy Birthday To Vag!

Hello vagina friends!

It's time to get a little sentimental, because Hey Vaginismus! is celebrating it's first birthday.  (OK it was technically last week- what can I say, I'm a terrible blog-mother).

One year ago (OK... one year, and one week ago), I had my breakthrough. I had my ENOUGH IS ENOUGH moment! I decided it was time to tackle vaginismus once and for all, and decided to set up a blog to encourage myself to keep the treatment up, and, ideally, to connect with other women who also have the condition. The main dream was to find another woman with vaginismus and meet her face to face.

Setting up Hey Vaginismus! was one of the best things I have ever done.

I have connected with a huge amount of women over email, twitter and via the blog, who all know exactly how I feel.  We have supported one another to keep going, try new dilator tactics, talk more openly with our friends and family, keep up therapy appointments and to believe that there might be an end to this.

As it happens, there hasn't been an end for me yet.  But, over this past year, I have come so close.  I am not looking on that as a failure.  I have had some moments of vagina brilliance, and although it hasn't ended in full-on penetration, it has given me a the belief that one day it will be possible.

I had an unexpectedly busy year- my little freelance business has gone off the scale crazy and unfortunately that has meant that my brain has had little time for vaginismus.  As we all know, it's the first thing to be shut out when things get hectic.  You can't avoid work, family commitments, your partner, your friends, your hobbies... But you can easily avoid the hell out of vaginismus.  And I suppose that is what I have been doing.  Every now and again, it floats back on to my radar and I think about getting my dilators out, but then I have to go somewhere, or do something, or reply to 50 emails.  And just like that, it's gone again.

Now don't worry. This isn't one of these THIS IS THE TURNING POINT, I AM GOING TO STOP AVOIDING IT!!!

Because we all know, that probably isn't going to happen overnight.

But this is perhaps the time to at least consider it.  Or consider the fact that it is still in my life.  Do I want to be sitting in exactly the same position when Hey Vaginismus! turns two?  Absolutely not. But it won't go away by itself.  So I am going to have to do something... right?

But let's keep this post upbeat! Happy Birthday, Hey Vaginismus!  A little blog that started out of a mixture of curiosity and boredom one afternoon, that has led to so many wonderful conversations with amazing women, trying to make sense of a really complex condition.

We are all amazing, ladies!  And one day, our vaginas will comply, and sex will be amazing too! (And going swimming on your period. WOW!)

So, how am I celebrating the first birthday of the blog?  Well, tomorrow, I am sitting down FACE TO FACE with another woman who has vaginismus.  Seriously.  In a spectacular case of right place, right time, a blog reader and I have found ourselves briefly in the same city, with a few free hours to talk vag.  This was the original aim of the blog, as you'll know.  It may have taken a year but I am so excited that it's finally happening!

Thanks for spending this past year-and-one-week with me... I look forward to chatting more as the vaginismus journey goes on... xx


1 comment:

  1. Primary Vaginismus. 
    If you have it, then your body is NOT designed for sex. 

    It is God's way of telling a woman that she is DESTINED to become a nun or celibate. 
    So if you have it, go on and BECOME A NUN.
    Or be CELIBATE. 
    That's because it is God's way of controlling the global population. God created women with such sexual dysfunction to keep them away from sex and thus preventing conception. Unfortunately, most women don't realize it and would still go through days and weeks of therapy which is just time consuming. 

    Trying to remedy your condition is against God's will.
    God does NOT want you to have sex. 
    If your a woman, don't get married & don't have sex if your VAGINA wont let you.
    God had CLOSED the gates of your virginity.
    FACE IT! You have a NUN'S VAGINA.
    It is time to give up on men and become a NUN.

    VAGINISMUS may be the answer to overpopulation.
    God truly works in strange ways.
    I am now an enlightened man.