Tuesday, 19 July 2016

What's New, Pussycat?


It's been about a million years since I last wrote a blog post. For anyone who was looking for me, I'm sorry! I have been super busy but hello! I'm back! And still rocking a very nervous vagina. Hoorah.

So, what's new?

Well, in the world of my vaginismus, not much really. It's still there. Scotland is currently undergoing a heatwave (I am basically an endless, sweaty disaster), but vaginismus still hangs over my head like a big, annoying rain cloud.  I would love to update you and tell you something major has happened.  But sadly that is not how this particular condition operates.

In slightly interesting news, I have decided to come off my contraceptive pill.  I have obviously not actually been on this for contraceptive reasons (no actual sex= no reason for contraception right?).  But I have been on it for years to try and control my nasty, heavy periods.  However, I've had a few chats with friends recently who felt that the pill was killing their sex drive.  I have a very low sex drive at the best of times. I always put this down to vaginismus, and a mild fear of sex, but recently I've been wondering if that little pill was suppressing all the good and interesting things about being a woman.  And maybe, without it, I'd be in a better place to tackle my issues with sex.

I'll keep you in the loop with how that goes... Fingers crossed for some kind of miraculous breakthrough.

Otherwise, things are the same.  Because there is no quick fix with vaginismus.

I have been so busy with work lately that I have just pushed it to the back of my head. If I don't think about it, it isn't there. Right?


But I am back on my blog. That must be a start.  Vaginismus is back on my radar- and I have a new sense of determination to destroy it, and what it does to me.

I have had this determination before.

Here's hoping this time it's for real

SAY HI!  heyvaginismus@gmail.com


  1. YOU'RE BACK!!!!!
    So happy about that! Came here every week to check on you, and now there's something new - that's exciting.

    But sad for you that it's still there :/
    Same for me, if it makes you any happier. Zero progress because of zero motivation to tackle that stupid stupid condition.

    I also went off the pill this January, but couldn't notice any differences (except for 1-3 weeks of SEVERE pain, mood swings and fatigue) but if've heard good things about going off the pill and vaginismus - so it might be good for you.

    I'm in a new city right now for my semester abroad (so no bofriend around for 5 months). I'm thinking this could be the time to actually tackle that b***. So maybe I'll go see a PT here (as there are apparently no PTs for that in Germany.
    Was thinking about that a lot and maybe your new blogpost was a sign?

    Anyways - all the best to you :) And keep up the blog if you will. It's so funny.

  2. Good to see a post!
    I was thinking of dropping an email to make sure you're doing ok...

    If you feel like you need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to drop an email (or a blog post, I check often). It can be a huge relief to have someone to talk to, especially someone who is going through the exact same thing.

    I recently conquered the d3 (or is it 4?, the second biggest one). I don't have to use the d2 anymore. It took me a long time to get here..a really long time..as in 3+ years, on and off..so, if in despair, don't worry, you WILL get there. It takes a lot of time and effort, but, it can be done.

    For me personally, extended insertions helped. I would do at least an hour..or until it starts to come out on it's own (that's when you know you're fully relaxed- ;) death grip on it otherwise)
    I could never do a 15min insertions - I mean, it would take me that long to get it in sometimes! So, didn't seem like it would be good to take it out in a short amount of time. And just rotating and moving it in place and, once I'm really comfortable, doing rapid insertions.
    Do give it a try...extended insertions are something that worked for me personally.

    Again, don't hesitate to get in touch if in need of some motivation!
    :) I might do the same too..


    I am a man who believes in WOMEN’S RIGHTS. If a woman has a right to say NO to sex, then so does her VAGINA. She should respect her VAGINAL RIGHTS. They are:

    1.) Vagina’s right to refuse sex.

    2.) Vagina’s right to self-pleasure

    3.) Vagina’s right to self-lubricate.

    If a woman has Primary Vaginismus, it means her VAGINA is refusing sex.
    If she insist on having sex, then she's violating her vaginal rights.
    Vaginismus is God’s way of saying that a women are NOT baby factories. It’s God’s form of BIRTH CONTROL.